love more

Loving more. 

My whole life I've felt I wanted to love more. I loved everyone. I didn't have a best friend. All of my friends were my best friends. I didn't like having to pick teams or reduce my birthday invite lists. I still don't like to. Everyone is invited. I love you all.  

While finding ethical non-monogamy I did a lot of reading about what it was and 'how-to' do it. During that time, I remember setting my copy of Easton & Hardys' The Ethical Slut down next to me and astonishingly sighing, "Wow. Yeah." after reading the lines: 

Many traditional attitudes about sexuality are based on the unspoken belief that there isn't enough of something -- love, sex, friendship, commitment -- to go around. If you believe this, if you think that there's a limited amount of what you want, it can seem very important to stake your claim to your share of it. You may believe that you have to take your share away from somebody else, since if it's such a very good thing, someone else is probably competing with you for it. Or you may believe that if someone else gets something, that means there must be less of it for you. 

It is with this passage that I have found a lot of help when dealing with that icky socially constructed yuck -- jealousy. That feeling of attachment that is so hard to shake! (It's a daily practice for me still), If you can work on realizing that there IS enough love to go around and that more you love the more love you get. You'll find yourself more at ease. 

Try loving more.